I would say that I am a feminist, not an activist, but I certainly believe in the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.
Since it’s International Women’s Day, I thought it fitting to write a post in honour of all the bad ass women out there that have made the world a better place to live.
While the fight for equal rights is still far from over. According to the World Economic Forum’s 2017 Global Gender Gap Report, we won’t be seeing gender parity for more than 200 years. That is far too long to wait, but in the meantime, we should be making our best effort to equal the playing field and stop tolerating subtle behaviors that regard women as second-class. It’s because of the amazing, strong, opinionated women of the world who speak their mind, that I can live the life I do today, and for that I am pretty pumped!
If you read my blog…which you probably don’t because I am a terrible blogger and rarely write anything useful—you might know a few things about me. I started my blog about 4 years ago, with the intention of writing about nutrition, health, and wellness—which, I sometimes do write about. But it turns out, you can find that shit anywhere on the internet. What you can’t find anywhere else on the internet are my opinions, so that’s what I choose to share most often.
A wise friend asked me, “what’s your ethos?”
My ethos, in life and as a writer, is to be my most authentic and relatable self. I tend to lean towards self-deprecating humour as my go-to. This is mostly because I hate myself. 90% of the time I hate how I look, I hate what I see when I look in the mirror, I hate the sound of my own voice, I hate how mediocre I am at fitness, I hate that I’m a mouth breather, I hate that I would rather take a nap than go do fun outgoing things, I hate that I love peanut butter so much…like, why can’t I just like broccoli as much as I like PB, I hate that I can’t keep my mouth shut and I always have to be heard. Most days I look at my life and think…how the fuck did I end up here and why do I suck so bad at adulting.
However, I don’t think I’m completely alone in the way I feel about myself, and I don’t think society makes it easy on us either…ESPECIALLY as women. True authenticity is hard to come by, which is why I feel the need to constantly overshare my struggles on the internet. I NEVER write with the expectation of gaining readership, but I do feel that if sharing my struggles with the world is relatable and possibly helpful to even one person, than it was totally worth it.
It’s hard to pick the most important message of all time that you want to send to the world. My ethos is to help other women feel good about themselves, even if it means pointing out how terrible I am at life so that other people realize that their own life isn’t actually so bad after all. HA! My ethos is to tell women that you don’t have to be perfect, the strongest women in the world gained their strength because shit went wrong and they handled it, they handled it like a fucking champion.
As women we are expected to look, act and behave a certain way. And although being strong has become more widely acceptable, if we aren’t 16% BF, it’s still not good enough. We compare ourselves to one another, instead of building each other up. Lets build each other up!
I’m constantly in awe of women who are confident in their own skin, who give zero fucks about what anyone thinks, who put their true authentic selves out into the world, who are not afraid to share their struggles and their success and who share the top of the podium with other women.
So, my parting words on this IWD is to be your authentic self. Haters gonna say it’s fake, but haters gonna hate!
“We teach girls to shrink themselves. To make themselves smaller. We say to girls,
“You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful
otherwise you will threaten the man.” Because I am female. I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices. Always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of. Joy and love and mutual support.
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage. And we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors. Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing. But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings. In the way that boys are